Monday, April 21, 2014

The Road to Suburbia

Last weekend was the big move for the Legris family. I had been looking for homes online for months and when we saw this one, we knew this was a place we could grow into, and even stay a few years after residency. Possibly buy if we end up loving it here. We figured renting for at least 3 more years was a smart move for us. Not exactly sure where Justin will end up working and it would be nice to buy close to where he works and plan on staying! :)  Plus, I continue to see friends buy and then have things to fix and replace, etc, etc. No big deal I think if you have the money saved up to do so. However, we don't. We just barely squeaked by in medical school the past 4 years. So being smart about our future is now the name of the game. Loans to pay off after residency, and catch up time on retirement. We are continuously thankful for this road through medical school and the help we have received along the way. God is good and faithful.

Anyhoo....Suburbia! LOVE it! I like the well kept neighborhoods. The people outside with their family's playing basketball, or working on their yards. The kids playing in backyard. I like the noise and the silence. It feels a little slower in south Olathe, calm, people just living, taking care of their family's. The highways are all very close so getting around KC still isn't a big deal. However, we do drive further, so the days I don't have to get out I don't to save some gas $.

The house I LOVE! We moved into the Merriam duplex 2010 for a 6 month old. Ready for Justin to start school and us to be fairly close to KU med. 900 square feet was fine with one little baby. 2.5 kids later, we were busting at the seams for a bigger place. The kids need to run, a lot. I needed to be in a different room from them at times during the day, hah! It was good for the time, but this is exactly what we have been hoping for and wishing for. A place to call home, with space for play, relaxation, and outside fun. It's a fairly new place, and the only thing at the moment I would change would be new carpet. That too will come someday when we buy our first home. This is more than we could wish and ask for right now. No one is entitled to anything in this life, and I will continue to remind myself and family of that. Our time here is only for a period. Things, nice houses, cars, etc, yeah they are nice, and fun. God wants us to enjoy the beauty around us. But I also believe you can't put much stock in it, and it certainly shouldn't be what makes you happy. You never know what life brings and where it takes you, but the one constant is love. The family god has blessed us with is best gift in this life.

So here we are onto the next step in our story. Justin starting residency as a family doctor, and a growing family with new baby boy due in July. Thankful isn't even a strong enough word to express my heart. There are no words to the joy and appreciation I have in my soul. It is good.

Here's a few pics of the house and starting our daily routine here :)

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

The match and moving day!

Most all you know now that Justin had the match last week! Almost 4 years of medical school and we are finally at the end. It's crazy, I remember starting this blog when Caleb was 6 months old. I was filled with worry about our future and how we would do this. Going into a time in our life with no income from Justin and very, very little from me. We have been extremely lucky with amazing friends and people in our life to help us through this. We are beyond thankful to god for always providing. The moment we didn't know how to pay a bill, or get through a hard time, god provided. HE is faithful, and the biggest thing I have learned through this journey is to continue to try and let go of my worry and let god take it. I've grown up a lot through this, another baby, and now a third on the way. Life has been good to us. God has heard our prayers.

We are about to start the next step in this medical journey and a new phase in our lives. Justin matched in family medicine at KU medical center! We couldn't be happier to remain here and go with where that takes us. There are 9 residents at KU and Justin officially starts orientation the middle of June. He finishes all of his medical school course work this Friday. In between then and now he will help teach a medical students step 1 prep class at KU and help get our family moved in about a week.

We moved into a pretty small duplex the year Justin started school 2010. He have remained here because it's close to the medical school and it's been a good fit for this time. However, now we have the chance to get a home that will fit the needs of 3 little people! haha. We found a wonderful house in South Olathe. A little drive for Justin to KU hospital, but if you live in KC you notice there's a lot of driving around the city anyway. We decided we would sacrifice that for a larger home, in a great neighborhood, with kids outside playing, a little pool, a nice peaceful area. There are 4 bedrooms and 3.5 baths. A beautiful deck and yard. At this point in my life with little ones I feel I live in the kitchen our outside playing with the kids when the weather nice. It's a gift to be able to stay home with our kids. I love it so dearly. We will still be extremely tight on finances, but hey, who isn't these days :) In 3 more years we will finally be able to buy a home, and start the road to loan repayment! hahaha. What a great life!

For now, the kids are doing well, helping me pack every day. Baby boy is growing in my tummy and starting to kick a lot. I think I might have another active boy on my hands, ha.

Thank you friends a million times for your thoughts, prayers, help, and love during the past few years. It can be done. You can chose to follow what makes you happy, a different career path, even later in life :)

I'll keep you updated after the MOVE!

The very beginning of Medical chool 2010!!

2014 match!


The house we are moving into next week

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Becoming Grateful

So I haven't been able to stop thinking about this article I read. I posted it on facebook, but here it is too -  The one things Christians should stop saying  The article about Christians that should stop saying "I'm blessed." WOW, It has really made me think a lot about blessings and the way we word things, and the habits we get into without thinking about it. I mean really thinking about what we are saying. It just rolls off our tongues because that has come to be the way many of us express how lucky we are. Our family is so blessed to have this or that. Well, why shouldn't we give glory to god for everything. We should. Timothy 6:17  Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment.

God did put things on this earth, provided things and people, and beauty for us to enjoy.

I often had thought to myself. Why Do I say I am so blessed to have, this, that or the other? Does that mean people who don't have these things aren't blessed. Or the people who have more are blessed more by god.  I got this raise, new house, or car, we have all this stuff, etc, etc. We are so blessed. That is so how I was thinking.

After researching more in the bible, and talking to my pastor. I feel like a better word would be grateful. Really my pastors idea or thoughts after reading the article himself (also mentioned at the end of the article)
, but makes total sense. It seems the word blessed could be of the spirit, and you can see that directly in Mathew 5: 1-12

1 Now when he saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to Him,
2 And He began to teach them, saying:
3 Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
5 Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
6 Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they will be filled.
7 Blessed are the merciful, for they shall be shown mercy.
8 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the sons of God.
10 Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
11 Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.
12 Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

In my mind I was giving glory to god for everything in my life. I do believe he gives and takes away. I am truly blessed by god if I can be thankful, gracious and loving in the good and bad. In having things and not having anything. That is a blessing in my soul.

I am also beyond grateful for all god has given me. For everything, For love, life, breath, eyes that see, nourishment, and yes even the material things that we enjoy, the ease of our life. No this isn't a promise from god. No not everyone has the same life style or "things" as we seem to deem important in our culture. Can you be grateful to god for these things without being selfish and worshiping them.
I think so. I think we can give glory and gratitude, in all things in life god gives. Most of all the blessing to our spirit. To see through his eyes. To listen when he is speaking to us. I pray he continues to speak to my soul and help me to question these things. Helps me to talk to others about it, and seek the answers through his word.

I wanted to share this in case anyone else was having the sames thoughts, or concerns over an article that sparked attention by so many Christian's. I think it's good for us to look deeper into the spiritual habits we take on. Open our hearts when god is speaking to us through other believers. Thanks for reading.


Sunday, February 16, 2014

There's this boy I LOVE

There's this boy I love, and tomorrow he turns 4. My heart is melting. That deep feeling of holding back tears because my first baby, our very first miracle is growing way too fast. My eyes swell up as I write this tonight from all the emotions you could have with a child that you adore. He is my amazing, special, miracle from god. Had we not lost our first baby, Caleb wouldn't exist. I never thought this parenting thing would be filled with so many emotions. I never thought I was capable of loving like this. Understanding love, the way god intended. It's awesome, and our son is awesome.

This little guy came into our lives 4 years ago. He has tested me. Worn me out. Filled me with joy. Taught me, is teaching me constantly how to love, how to be better, how to be a mother to a boy. I was so worried when we first had Caleb I wouldn't know how to give him all he needed, as a boy I mean. I didn't have any brothers and really had no idea what young boys were like. Although I had always dreamed I would have a little boy who was wild, loved dinosaurs, played in the mud, climbed everything. WOW, did I ever get that dream, hah.

He is teaching me. A mother of a boy. A wild boy. We have to let things roll off our shoulders. We have to be wild somethings too. Wrestle, and cover them in mud as we search for worms in the rain. We have to look at them in wonder when they do something we would have no way of understanding, unless we ourselves had a male boys mind. We have to shake our heads when they run around naked, shaking their booties. Let them run, jump, tumble and rumble. They NEED it. They need to be boys, and be allowed to be.

At one point early on, I thought I had to try so hard to shape him into this perfectly well mannered boy so everyone wouldn't see how crazy and wild he was. It exhausted me. I felt like I was crushing his little boy spirit by expecting that he should and could sit quietly and play with toys on the floor for hours. Well, kind of like his sister did. Nice, sweet, gentle with the toys. Now don't get me wrong. We work on and are constantly learning and working on manners. Boys can be boys without being rude and obnoxious. Well, most the time :) But really, I am learning how to foster and allow my sweet amazing boy to be who he is and still shape his behavior into a well rounded child. That's the hope of most parents I imagine.

However, hopefully without the expense of crushing his or my spirit. I let him (and Corinne) do things my parents would have never allowed. We throw all the pillow cushions off the couches and jump into fake mud puddles. We paint with our hands and toes in the kitchen all over the floor (washable paint!). We build huge forts all over the house and spend hours playing bear hunt. We get dirty, run, play and scream outside. I LOVE it. I love every minute of watching Caleb grow into the 4 year old he is tomorrow.

HE is filled with love. So unbelievably sweet. He is crazy creative and looks at the world in a constant learning mode. He brings life to the room. Makes me laugh. Drives me crazy (mainly because we are so much alike). I can not imagine this life without him. God blessed us ten fold with our children. He made this little guy special. Justin and I adore him. With each passing day and year I hope we take it all in. The good and the hard. I don't want to miss a blink of this beautiful life. Or this beautiful child. Thank you god for Caleb, this boy I love.


Saturday, February 15, 2014

SAHM with the Legris's

Full time stay at home mom. That's what I have become since January. I still work at my church as the director, but that job is a blast and I love those people, so it hardly feels like work. So what do I do all day? What does a mother at home DO all day?

Well, a lot depends on the day, but we stick to a pretty good schedule. I am loving being at home with the kids and I get to spend a lot of quality time with them. Before I know it they will both be in school and I will be asking myself; What do I do all day now?? HA

Caleb is in preschool so 2 days a week we get up, get ready for school, eat, play, and go to school. Corinne and I either kill time during his school or come home and clean. After we do lunch and quiet time, nap for Corinne. The days we don't go to school alternate between play dates, story times or stay at home play. I try and get some cleaning done in the morning, but I'm lucky if I get one room done between the food, water, diaper, and HELP request from the monsters. I might get to pee by myself in the bathroom for like a minute, but that is rare, shower is the night before or if Justin is home in the morning.

After quiet time we will do free play, art time, some other fun activity or when the weather is nice spend as much time outside as possible. About 5pm I try to get some kind of healthy diner started and deal with the witching hour of children. You know this if you are a parent, but if not it's kind of like the time of day they turn into crazy little monsters filled with all naughty inclinations. Really, the fits start, the I'm hungry, the running around chasing of sister taking all her toys, the climbing on and of the walls. It's pretty special. Justin usually gets home around this time. I have to laugh, because he walks in the door to a screaming fit or the kids in break in their rooms and I have no idea what he is thinking. Probably of along the lines of what an amazing wife and mother I am to put up with this all day!! :) Or, maybe, our children are little monsters and what have done wrong.... Either way, after dinner everyone clams a little for bath, teeth, books, and bed.

Doesn't sound too hard when you put it out in a schedule like that, ha ha. Then there comes the unexpected during the day. Potty messes from potty training. Potty training in general. Laundry, grocery shopping, budgeting, house cleaning, organizing, cleaning out kids clothes, toys, etc. Oh, and the ups and downs of kiddos. Good days, fitty days, life. It's awesome and tiring. Filled with memories I will hold for a lifetime, and filled with days that I can't wait for it to be bedtime.

This is who I am, and what is most important to me. What I am suppose to be doing right now, and I will pour my whole heart into my family. Don't worry, I take time for me. I have girl nights and trips to hobby lobby for sanity. But being home right now, while my kids are little is what is bring me joy. It is different for every family, and every woman or man. There's no laid out plan as to the way it should be. You work out what is right for you and your family as a whole. Who knows what the future will bring as our kiddos get older. I've stopped trying to guess, or plan. Instead I am just going along for the ride, and so far, it is a fantastic one! Sometimes I stop and wonder how I ever got to lucky to have an amazing husband, beautiful children and a life filled with blessings.

ps. 4 Weeks we find out if baby is a boy or girl!!!! :), 5 weeks till Justin's Match DAY!!

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